Vain and stupid people care about Reputation

Vain and stupid people care about Reputation

On Instagram @seanjeann I asked my followers on a poll for their views on Reputation. I asked “Does reputation matter in the big picture?” Results are still up but about 60% believe YES, your rep matters, they could not be more wrong! In the BIG picture of life someone’s reputation doesn’t matter because it is rooted in gossip and assumptions. When someone has a rep, for example being a whore, it is based on opinions, gossip and judgement. Are we going to live like that? Are we going to let opinions and gossip rule how we think or how we see things? Unfortunately, yes.

Why? Look at the title. Most of us are vain and stupid that’s why we look at our social media like ragging lunatics to see who’s watching us. Our vanity forces us to care about other people’s reputation, people we don’t even know. We connect dots based on assumptions making us look like dummies, because that is what we are and that is what we do. Its pathetic.

That 40% that chose “nah” on the reputation poll is promising, because it tells me that they see the BIG picture. They transcend human nature and chose to live a life free of prejudice, which is what we should all aim for. They have a brain and can think for themselves instead of letting others effect their views. Life is not about what others say or what you’ve heard, life is about actions because actions matter. Anything else is just stupid, dumb, vain, speculation…

 

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Motivation Mondays: Self-Worth

Motivation Mondays: Self-Worth

“why did you even deal with her?”

“you’re better than that!”

“that was a waste of your time”

“wow, that’s what you did”

“DAMN, That’s what happened?”

“Why did you do that, you deserve better’

I’ve heard these before and I’m sure you have too. All of these have one theme and it’s in the title: self-worth. I find that we live in a time where we know our worth but DON’T at the same time. We measure each other’s value on how many followers we have, the quality of pictures we have, how much “success” we’re having, how much money we have, how fly are clothes are looking, etc. We measure our worth in the most superficial ways.

Is it human nature? Is it a sign of the times? Is it capitalism? Is it North American culture? Is it how men are raised? Let me tell you the truth, it’s all of these combined. We live in a selfish age and a selfish time. We pick to Retweet a movement to prove we have morals instead of going out to do the work. We take photos with our baby cousin to prove that we’re good with kids. We take gym selfies to prove we care about our health. All of this because we want to show or “worth”. All of us trying to create a story of how valuable we are to reach our desired “level”. In Sociology this concept is called Social stratification which essentially means we, as a group of people, work and try to reach higher levels of social and/or material proof. But why am I even writing about this?

Because I have reached a crossroad that everyone must reach, evaluating my self worth. Everyday people work jobs that they are overqualified for, relationships that they’ve outgrew and stay at the same place they grew up. I want us to break these chains. My journey to figuring this out was a few weeks ago when I was seeing a someone, I quickly realized that she was not worth my time, energy and commitment. The problem was I felt comfortable with her I didn’t feel challenged, I lowered my expectations, I settled. I didn’t feel like I deserved better, my self esteem was low. Never again.

One of my mentors (shout out JJ) once told me “people treat you how you let them treat you” at the time I thought it was a weird saying but he was spitting facts. I let her (and others in life) treat me worse than I actually am. A strange thing happens when you don’t know your value, you start believing what others SAY your value is! You build a script in your head of what THEY think you are and you appease their views. It’s easier to fall down to what they expect and you rationalize it. For me, I saw it as being kind to her, being compassionate but that wasn’t the case. It’s because I was a pussy weak and did not understand my worth. My time, energy and spirit. This has led to some uncomfortable thoughts and reflection about life and the future.

But I embrace it. Rather than let the “what if” of life circle my mind and get flushed down the toilette I want the “I will”. I will NOT deal with someone beneath me. I will do better. I will NOT waste my time. I will take control of my time. I will take risks to get where I want to be. I will reach my goals and dreams.

I will know my worth and never settle because I’m “comfortable”.

And

I hope you do the same.

🙂

Fame, Jealousy and Death: my thoughts on Xxxtentacion, Smoke Dawg and Jimmy Wapo

Fame, Jealousy and Death: my thoughts on Xxxtentacion, Smoke Dawg and Jimmy Wapo

Biggie once said “you’re nobody, till somebody kills you”.

Never has that been more true than the recent deaths of local legends and worldwide rap stars like Xxxtentation, Smoke Dawg and Jimmy Wapo. First off I want to say Rest In Peace and my dearest condolences to the familes, friends and fans of each of these rappers. I am a fan of all three but mostly an X fan. These deaths taught me a lot mainly the power of jealousy and fame.

Boosie BadAzz on VladTV proclaimed that rappers need to get out of their hometowns or they’ll get killed because of jealously. That is exactly what happened to each of these three. X was touching the peaks of mainstream success and climbing into “Pop Star” territory, Smoke Dawg was already a Toronto legend and Wapo was a respected up and comer. With clout that strong jealousy, friends, family and enemies consistently surrounding them something was BOUND to happen. The sad truth is People Don’t WANT YOU TO WIN. When the killers watched X’s social media waiting to catch him slipping and rob him they did it out of out of Hate, distain and envy. When they shooters ran up on Smoke in downtown Toronto they were full of hate, distain and envy. When they murderers drove by Wapo they were filled with hate, distain and envy. Do you see the trend?

This isn’t new in hip hop, legends being killed in their home turf or getting seriously hurt. I can’t just chalk it up to “The Streets” or black on black crime. It’s a human problem rather than support or get inspired by others success we decide to end their lives. Pathetic! As a culture, this culture of rap we can’t let the envy blind us. We can’t sink down to our lower nature we must fight to keep love and support for each other.

Because that is all we have.

Us.