For the most part people have come to the belief that social media and tech have isolated us and made us more lonely, but for the most part they’re wrong. Everyone who says that social media has made us as a people more lonely makes the easy correlation between more time on the screen ruining face to face interactions. While I agree with that previous statement I think it’s really closed minded fam, how you lonely when you have multiple people in your phone you can hit up? Or…maybe that’s the reason we are lonely…wait hold the fuck up!?! YUP that’s the answer! In sociological theory there’s the concept of Urban Solitude and if you have a dictionary (or google) you’ll see that it basically means that you’re lonely within a big city. That’s ironic as fuck but trust me g it makes the most sense.
In the history of humanity the concept of big cities or even the formation of them has been extremely rare or non existent. Now we have cities that are 1mill up to 24 million in Shanghai, we live in the world of Urban Solitude. If you look at human history its very rare to find societies and countries that had humongous populations! Farm towns and small villages were common, now the script is flipped like pancakes. We are so connected with tech, social media and the world yet we can’t connect to our neighbors (and we got a shit ton of em). This time and era of solitude is why our generation and most people feel so lonely. If you’re bored look up Dunbar’s number and you’ll understand that humans have a cap and a limit on social relationships, that means those 1000 “friends” of FB or 2k followers on IG are contributing to your loneliness. Aint that a bitch?
We tend to go for the easy answer when it comes to big questions, loneliness is one of the biggest ones out there: why am I alone? The answer is easy: we’re all alone because we are always together. An easy way to think of this is when you’re in a class of 150 students and a class of 32, you’ll most likely make friends and meaningful connections in the smaller class than the bigger one. Why? Because that is human nature.
btw listen to My Love by Wale feat Dua and Wizkid
Its a Kardashian world and we living in it. Scratch that its an Instagram
thot world and we all living in it ! “Fam why is you writing this post?” – Inner Intellictual Ratchet voice, because its a fuckin epidemic. I call it the Catfishification of our culture. Much like Alternative facts perpetuated by a powerful man, Alternative ass is encouraged and reinforced by all men! Issa a sad ting, so imma help each and every one of you thirst buckets to avoid the catfishification of your timeline! May the Alternative ass never prosper my g!
- Assess the Ass: The extra effort in analyzing the booty will avoid much stress and disappointment, a zoom in ting might be necessary. Its 2017, women understand the power of photoshop, make sure that doorframe doesn’t have a curvature, if so curve her like a blackberry.
- Sight the pop: Girls nowadays pop out the crease like its a cineplex popper, yup they’re poppin that ass out like its a kernel. Before you slide in her DMs and try to feast on her like KFC you gotta peep her kernel sanders lookin ass, yes is she popping out her ass in ever pic? If so you gotta pull a Plies and run off on the plug twice.
- Single her out: Aight i’m not a fan of objectification but my g if she’s actively advertising the fatty you have to asses but don’t let her finesse. There’s a trend of likkle booty broads chilling with tiny ass friends, this is why I encouraged further research. Compare shorty to other alluring creases, for the sake of research. We scientific outchea!
Honorable Mention=Peep her squat game. If she’s in the gym 24/7 then that fatty might be proper or Fat transfer #Staywoke
With the A.S.S. strategy we will eliminate Alternative ass one scroll at a time, done are the days of Jen Selter or Kylie Jenner, we on that Cocaine Lorraine and Bernice Burgos level. #Progression
From everything you can asses in my entire blog (I don’t expect you to read it all [only the real ones would]) you can clearly see that it is very personal. Personal to a fault yet distant in many ways, but I’d like to clarify a ting: every reader of this blog is appreciated! Got love for you regardless of where you are, who you are, known or unknown, got hella love for you don’t ever forget it! Big moves on the way and I want y’all to join me on the journey :).
With all that being said let’s get to the topic of tonight’s post: the beauty of acquaintances. Why did this topic even arrive in my head? aight I gotta keep it a buck, I was watching episode 2 season 2 of Master of None (season review pon da way) and Dev, Aziz Ansari’s character, said something incredibly profound yet simple as fuck to his buddy Arnold, “some people are in your life for a reason or a season” (btw peep my poem Seasonal). Yup, that simple. But take some time to think about that entire phrase…while you use those 2 brain cells imma explain the context. Arnold is Dev’s best friend, Dev is in Italy so Arnold come’s to visit him and also attend his ex girlfriend’s wedding. Pictures of Arnold’s ex (on his phone) spark up feelings, he expresses them to Dev basically sayin “i miss shordy” then BOOM, Dev says the most profound thing in this entire series. Aight, you done thinking over that line? Cause its simple like scrambled eggs yet harder to digest than the thickest oatmeal, what Dev was saying in this case was that Arnold’s ex was there for a reason and obviously a few seasons cause they dated for 11 years. Here I expand Dev’s romantic context to a platonic level, sometimes (a lot of times even) the ones who don’t know you as intimately as your friends are highkey better than your friends. Nothing worse than being treated “less” by your friends not only is it sad but its pathetic and indicative of the time we live in. I won’t go into details but I’ve seen a friends not help a mans stuck in corner while a next mans is faster and more willing to help some stranger (me). In your life there’s definitely been times of great turmoil where the most unlikely people rose up and your “friends” were no where to be found, is this a generational (millennial or post millennial) ting or is it in our nature? Imma expand on dat in a future post. To make it perfectly clear, we have all been victims and “fake friend” throughout our lives, but this is where it ends.
Nothing is more valued in our culture than “keepin it real” and thats the sad thing about our times, friendships are ruined every day based on lies, dishonesty and lack of communication. That’s why the allure of having an acquaintance or having a lot of them is so important, it essentially means that there’s a sort of witness and a half investment in you so disappointment (even expectation) is lower than with friends. No, I am not encouraging everyone to go the drake route on some no new friends shit, all I’m sayin is that we shouldn’t take the acquaintances for granted! Who knows, they could be your manager one day or maybe a janitor, who knows (no Raven Symone). So value the ones you rarely see and expand on those relationships, because we are the social ape and we need more in our tribe than the others.
Some thoughts that ring through a 2:33am mind aren’t simple to write down. We could play the generic super emotional sad nostalgic “i’m alone” card but that’s played out. We could talk about fears and anxiety but that’s also a useless overplayed record…why are you reading this (and why am I writing this)? Because there’s a message behind this and if you follow me down this journey you’ll find it and maybe find yourself in this journey.
Recently I’ve been looking at what the meaning of friendship is, and as abstract and simple as that may be, it has occupied my mind. We have them, we need them and they need us, that’s the biggest part of being human. This lead me to expand and try to understand what a soulmate and what a lifemate are. When these thoughts decided to run in my head I did what anyone would do: I asked my friends. For the most part they said that a lifemate and soul mate are essentially the exact same thing, and to be real I didn’t agree with any of em’. I like understanding things, especially when they peak my interest so I went to check out this dope ass youtuber/sexologist Shan Boody who essentially broke down soulmate as someone who grasps an intense close connection while a lifemate is someone in your life forever that will support your “journey”. No one has explained my feelings on such words any better than Boody.
We are raised in a society (especially with media pressures) that constantly tries to “pair” us up, couples and relationships are literally “goals”. We have been raised to believe that marriage is that thing we gotta do, to have our soulmate the one that makes us whole…What if I told you all that was some bullshit? What if i told you that your soulmate and potential lifemate is a best friend, a friend or even an acquaintance? What if I told you romantic love is more misleading than genuine love for family and friends? What If I told you that an amazing friendship can surpass anything? What if i told you that friend breakups are worse than romantic ones? What if this whole blog was some bullshit and its 2:50am I should be sleeping?
Lots of “if”s turned to thoughts, turned to actions which transformed into habits…let that sink in.
They said that April showers bring May flowers
Sometimes it snows in April
Sometimes when March leaves
And we forget the February love
We try to start fresh like January 1st
You were never, my last never December
I tried to not remember November
Crazy I fell for you in October (it was your birthday)
Work and School played games in September
Alsina the way I lost you in August
My heart needed you mid July when I turned 21
Before we became what we were, seasonal.
You come, I go and I cum you go
We sleep in the same bed yet miles apart
I know not to speak on matters of the heart but you and me could never work from the start. Seasons come and seasons go, our season was cold, hot, lukewarm and chilly but from the start it was silly.
Seasons come and seasons go.
I miss you
This is know.
I’m big on perspective and to be perfectly clear it is important that we have a view of the big picture, this show is well done and it is a must watch. But y’all don’t get it twisted this aint a recommendation, I give this show a solid C- for several reasons. If you don’t have netflix or an internet connection (bruv why u even on my blog) I’ll try to summarize it spoiler free…IMMA SPOIL IT AROUND THE MIDDLE OF THIS RANT/REVIEW…in essence this show addresses teen suicide. With the climate we live in, where more than ever people are effected by mental health issues especially teenagers it is incredibly important that this show came out and is a huge reason why it became popular. With that being said this show is about Hannah Baker, a teenage girl that killed herself because of several people in her life, she records a tape about each of those people. Thus the show name 13 reasons why, 13 tapes of 13 people. Interesting concept, important message, relevant topic but shit execution. The main reason I dislike this show is because of the two main characters, Hannah and Clay, they are framed in such an unrealistic light that this show loses credibility and watchablity (i just made up that word, you’tr welcome).
Before I go off, this section is the spoiler zone…do not pass this if you haven’t watched the show in its trash entirety…You’ve been warned fam…now on to why I dislike this show. I hate it because of Hannah Baker for the most part, and Clay for similar but different reasons, first and foremost they both represent 1st world problems! For a show that pushes an important message there’s whole ass episodes focusing on a piece of paper being thrown on the ground, friends not showing up to cafes and rude valentine dates. Y’all need to re read that last sentence! Bruv can you actually see yourself committing suicide because of such petty reasons? I ain’t trying to be insensitive but something has to give, my g there’s people on this earth living in HELL and they survive they thrive they don’t sweat the small stuff. Even within the show, Justin objectively speaking had the roughest life of the entire cast and he was able to cope with the shitty hand he was dealt with. I know everyone’s different but at the end of the day we live in a real world and this world that 13 reasons why depicted is stupid and simplistic. A girl with so much privilege picks apart the pettiest shit to “tape” is downright insulting. The only tape that warrented suicide in my point of view is the Bryce tape, we all know why.
Clay is a different yet similar level of annoying and he ties in with Hannah perfectly, the mandem was actually going on a man hunt for a girl that gives 0 fucks about him. Clay is one of the corniest characters of all time, he literally lives in flashbacks and not to mention he’s a terrible son. Now I understand the hurt he felt after finding out his #wcw offed herself but I find it telling that the mans knew so little about her yet seemed to care so much. Is that human flaw or just shitty plot progression…you decide.
What makes this show even worse is that it glorifies suicide to a lowkey highkey degree. It’s highschool everybody is struggling, scratch that, it’s life we all go through terrible things every day instead of being over dramatic and hiding our problems we push on and we handle the problems of today and leave them when we go to bed! I’m not trying to trivialize depression…it’s terrible, I know, but realizing that you are not alone and have support in more ways than you can imagine can avoid suicide in so many ways. Hannah ain’t a hero, neither is Clay and neither is anyone in this headass cast. 13 Reasons why is basically a trash 90’s after school special that is praised for an issue we all can/already deal with.
(props for anyone that read this long post…respect.)
P.S….more show and music reviews on the way.
Pass me the Aux i’ll bump Xxxtentation before I blast Kdot and y’all can stay mad. I hate when people (specifically old heads) look at the new age rappers as if they’re the corruption of hip hop…no no and no. I say this cause hip hop aint one fuckin thing and these dummies literally think it is. If you really enjoy the genre called rap and you love music you will recognize the value of the new school, you will recognize the climate. Mumble rappers exist because of “Aux cord” culture and the independent artist movement. We control what we listen to more than ever, radio stations that push records to bleed our ears are non existent and it’s beautiful! We decide what’s hot and what’s not and to break it down even more, the producers (Zaytoven , Metro Boomin, Southside, TM88, etc) decide what pushes the culture forward! We’re the ones that look at soundcloud at 3am in the morning for the chune that reminds us of our ex, “we the ones poppin nigga we the ones” -21 Savage. It is natural for us to pick up on rappers that have melody and have the type of sound we want to listen to. Hip hop was literally established by the urban youth, it was created as a way of “fighting the power” it is a counter-culture much like rock n’ roll was post 1950’s. What are we going to do ? Ignore the fact that a Kodak Black track will get have me more turnt than a Joey Bada$$ record? No, as a consumer of hip hop and a participant in the culture I love mumble rappers. They represent a youthful carefree vibe that will last, the exemplify what hip hop was originally… a big fuck you to mainsteam “appropriate” music. If y’all wanna live in the 90’s and want a fresh 16 then go listen to Pusha T or Kdot that’s fine but for y’all critiques that have this vendetta against Lil Yatchy and his folk y’all can sit your bougie ass down. Y’all missed the point of hip hop and have become the thing you hate…a square and a lame. Here’s an easy metaphor for y’all: go to east side mario’s with friends and you pick out a pizza but 2 of your homies want spaghetti and meat balls, are you gonna freak out on them for disrespecting traditional Italian cuisine? No, cause it all fits under the same umbrella…
P.S. Joey Bada$$ recent album was fire…better than Kdot’s